Is it rude to ask if the food contains pork or alcohol?

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As a white, Christian, American person, I can confidently say that nobody should be offended by your dietary restrictions. I have several friends who are vegetarians simply because they chose to be, and I always make sure to accommodate them when I cook. In my opinion, it is impolite to disregard your guests' dietary restrictions, especially when it comes to religious reasons.

As CGCampbell mentioned, it would be appropriate to express your dietary restrictions by saying something like, "I am an observant Muslim and cannot consume pork or alcohol. Would it be possible to prepare a dish that avoids these ingredients?"

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It's not considered rude in the UK or anywhere in the western world as far as I'm aware.

However, it's polite to inform your host early on about any dietary requirements you may have so that they can accommodate them when planning and preparing the meal.

Instead of simply asking what's in the meal, it's more considerate to communicate your dietary needs to your host. It's their responsibility to take your medical and religious dietary requirements into account when cooking.

In London, it's common for people to have specific dietary needs such as halal, kosher, vegetarian, vegan, non-dairy, non-gluten, etc. When organizing food for a social or work event, it's typical to inquire about dietary requirements beforehand.

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I can not answer for the average USA person, but I can answer for the Dutch and likely also for those of Dutch descent who still hold most of their Dutch habits.

For us, the worst question is the one that is not asked but should have been asked. If you can ask before the cooking is done, like a few days ahead of time when you are invited, your question will be taken as a matter of fact and will be considered in making the menu and cooking, maybe by making extra dishes besides those that contain the items you do not eat. If the dinner is already cooked when you are invited or when you think about reminding them you do not eat certain foods, you might be told to not have something and in the worst case, some cans will be opened to serve you an alternative dinner. (But if they know you keep to certain food rules you may be catered for already.)

A friend of mine has a list of items she cannot eat, in her case because of allergies, and nobody has ever been offended by her asking. While your reason to ask may not be seen as as strong, many people will take it as very serious and would rather tell you than have you finding out by the taste.

Added: This Christmas my mother served the sweet course at the end of dinner and only then one of the guests (who has been to the house and joining dinner at least once a year for years) mentioned not having eaten dairy for a few years. If she had mentioned it before, even only a few minutes before, an alternative could have been served or at least offered and my mother would not have felt the embarrassment of serving 'non allowed' food.

The polite way to handle it, if possible, is to say 'thanks for the invitation, did you know I do not eat ...?' at which point the host can either confirm it will not be a problem or he will tell you that the food has already been prepared or the whole of the meal as planned will not suit you, sorry but alas and not go on with the invitation.

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